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Are You Seeking Information or Affirmation?

In the age of information, are you actually seeking information or are you seeking affirmation?  When you accept something as truth, do you seek out other sources that may question that truth or do you seek out outlets that continually affirm your truth?

Functional Medicine Colorado Springs“If they would just be informed.”  I hear this statement often from people that are on a health journey and want the people in their closest circles to jump on board with them.  The statement should actually read something like this.  “If they would just accept my truth as their truth, they would then be affirming all the time and energy I have put into seeking out and creating this world view.  Whom do they think they are for not agreeing and affirming my views?”

I especially see this with diets.  Whether it’s vegan, paleo, keto, or the ‘hell no’ diet.  It’s easy to then seek out references and data points that back up your view point.  Seriously, how many 300 page books do you have to read that end with the same conclusion that gluten is bad?

If that is you (me included), you are practicing seeking affirmation, not seeking information.  The information you do seek regarding the other view point is often to show those supporters NOT how your view is right but how their view is ultimately dangerous.

If there’s something more annoying than arguing with a person seeking affirmation, it’s arguing with a person seeking affirmation through fear motivation.  This is our current presidential race right now.  If so and so is elected, look at all the ways our country will crumble under their leadership.  Relax, we will all be ok.

In honor of seeking information instead of just affirmation, I have a few challenges for you. [Read more…]

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23 Questions to Ask Your Kids

Recently, I have had a number of people with auto-immune conditions consult with me.  Upon digging into their history and personal story, one of the biggest triggers that halts their health progress is related to their personal parent-child interaction.  Many of these people have already done massive changes in their nutrition and lifestyle.  The major issue has been a lot of hurt feelings and chronic stress around a close relationship that is strained.  

My personal relationship with my parents wasn’t that close growing up.  They did anything and everything possible to provide for me and my 2 siblings, but my parents weren’t the 2 people that I would go to first if I needed help with something.  I would either figure it out myself or go to friends.  It’s my own baggage and I am the reason for that distance relationship.

I will say now, as an adult, I’m closer to my mom than I ever have been.  Unfortunately, it’s not the case with my dad.  His mental capacity at this point in life makes me wonder if he would recognize me or know whom I am, if he spotted me somewhere other than at home.

My wife’s family is much closer.  There’s a friendship established with healthy respect between parents and kids.  Something that sticks out to me about them is that the kids (now all grown with families of their own) love going ‘home’ even when they don’t have to.  I hope to create that with my kids.  I want them to come home even when they don’t have to.  Don’t get me wrong, they won’t be living under my roof as adults but are free to visit anytime.

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